I have a lot of trouble being in the present moment. I’m either too nostalgic, living in the past and wishing to go back there, feeling guilty for things that went wrong in my life and the lives of those around me, or I’m fretting about the future, worrying about things that either won’t happen at all or will inevitably happen, and wishing for some magical date in the future when I’ll be the person that I want to be.
The second is of me with the Terminator from T2, which is still my favorite movie. I was so excited to be next to that figure of him that was used for the special effects of the film.I didn’t have as much trouble being in the present moment back then….I guess it was because I didn’t have as much responsibility, as much riding on my ability to handle things and to take care of everyone. I was the one being taken care of by those around me. I know that was probably a selfish place to be, honestly (but natural for someone who is still dependent on his or her parents), but there has to be some way to be able to get there now. I’ve been feeling overwhelmed lately with everything.
I don’t know if it’s advice or just some food for thought but what came to mind is, what is really riding on your shoulders? I know you’re a believer, so you have to ask yourself, is it all *really* on your shoulders or do you just feel that way? I always like the analogy someone gave of the toddler in the back of a car with a toy wheel thinking he is really controlling the “big” car… 🙂 And another question that helps me is “What is the worst thing that could happen” (should I fail this test, or should so and so not happen, or should this happen). It’s often not as bad as we think. Living in the present is something I struggle with too but am working on breathing. I tend to breathe shallow, and taking attention to breathe deeply forces you (me) to think actively about breathing, and living, and I like to make God a part of that breathing process. Have you read Eckart Tolle A New Earth? It talks a lot about the present and is amazing!